We move through life in phases. Starting over can happen in many ways and for many reasons. Though some may be sudden and unexpected others are a natural flow of life. Have you noticed that life tends to happen in phases?
School for years then perhaps college, the single phase, the married phase, the parent phase (which has many phases of its own), and “empty nest” as children move out just to name a few. You may have experienced a few or all of these and possibly in a different order but you get the idea.
How do you adjust to the new phases of your life? Have you been able to adjust and change with the flow of events in your life? Do you find you are having more challenges beginning some phases than others? What do you feel some of your biggest challenges have been?
Sometimes the biggest challenge with beginning anything new seems to be the learning of new habits and new ways of thinking when in reality it is usually more related to letting go of old habits and rituals that no longer serve the new phase of life you are now entering.
The more comfortable you become in your day-to-day routine the more inundated you are with the secure feeling you have created with your daily rituals. So even when life changes it can be difficult to change your daily rituals because they are comfortable even if they are no longer useful or necessary.
Are you doing things out of Habit?
The stress of the new you feel may be attributed to added responsibilities. More to do can lead to a feeling of time shortage. Take the time to assess regularly. You may find some outdated and unneeded “rituals” that you can get rid of or update that would lower the stress.
Make time regularly, even weekly, to assess what you are doing to see what is truly necessary. Use what you learn to adjust your rituals to serve you better. If you are unsure if something is necessary or efficient ask yourself these questions:
- Is it fun?
- Does it move me closer to my desired outcome?
- Is it necessary?
- What purpose is it serving?
- Is there a better way to accomplish this?
Each one of these questions will help you look at what you are doing in a new light. Sometimes you do things just because they make you happy. Awesome, these are great assets to a happy life.
Some may not necessarily make you happy all the time. They may move you forward to the desired outcome, making sure to have fun when possible always makes life better.
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In the process of deciding if something is necessary you may need to also figure out what purpose it is serving. They can go hand in hand.
Ultimately asking yourself if there is a better way to accomplish something keeps you open to learning.
The beginning of anything new is challenging. Learning to assess where you may be having problems with adjusting or letting go of old ideas is a huge step forward. It will help you move forward toward making the changes you need to start over successfully.
The “why” you are starting over is not as important as what are you going to do now to make it everything you dreamed it could be.
We move through life in phases. Having a plan to assess who we have become and move with confidence is essential. Please enjoy my free training on Regaining your power to help you get started on finding out who you are and what you are wanting to do in this new phase you are now entering.
Have a blessed day, Y’all,
Peggie Sue | The Midlife Dream Life Coach
