Moving on after a divorce can be very trying. As life challenges arise it is so easy to blame the divorce or your ex spouce for the events in your life. Now in some cases there are issues that are the result of either or both of the above but I am not refering to those specific situations. I am talking about daily life and the tendency to fall back on blame. How can you avoid the blame and continue on to a new life?
Break the habit.
- Admit you are using it as a crutch. Blame is easier than accountability. It is easier than taking responsibility for your life.
- Focus on solutions. Quit focusing on the problems themselves and start focusing on finding the solutions.
- Let It Go. Hanging on to the past is natural because it is famuliar. You must let it go and move into the rest of your life no matter how scary it feels.